Sunday, 3 February 2013

What is NLP ?

What is NLP ? It stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.
It is the most powerful type of influence

In the study of NLP, everything is created in communication.
It can be used in 2 ways :

1. To influence
2. To create change (in behavior)

It is a study of how people have created their internal reality. The study is to appreciate and understand who you are.
NLP is the owner's manual for his brain (because he is going to create it to get what he wants)
It is a study of how to co-exist between you and others as each of us has a different map (which is not the actual but an interpretation of the reality)
NLP in infuence helps you create a deep connection with other people.

NLP Coaches
Some of the coach - Carl & Michelle, Mary Joe
Richard K & Jack C - study what is it that make a student more outstanding
Modelling - break it into smaller parts and teach to somebody & it will work
Carl Bucheil - founded NLP 30 years ago
Anthony Robbins - your beliefs give you your action
- your actions give you your results
- Belief ---> Action ---> Results

NLP deals with the BLIND SPOT....

The good news is that another person can see the other person's blind spot.

Story ......
A CEO once engaged a coach to improve his business. When the coach came, the CEO saw a young man instead. He asked the young coach.. "Tell me what you know that I already know".

The lesson is ...A coach who knows what the client already know can't make a difference.

A coach helps the client see the things that they don't see.
(eg.
A coach helps the client who knows what to do but is not getting the result

On a contrary...
A consultant - is a person with specialised knowledge (teacher)
A mentor - is somebody who has done what you want to do

Creating our box
NLP is the owner's manual for his brain (because he is going to create it to get what he wants)
1. Frame work (is our box of reality)
What you want but you don't have is outside the box

2. We can dissolve the frame of the box (because we created it)

2 part brain

Quantity - Are we still alive? If yes, continue breathing, blinking etc
- Therefore, we are always looking for 2 things - belonging & safety
- Our actions will choose those which are going to be safe & familiar
(eg. in accordance to family belief)
(innately, human beings follows our parents BUT our neurons can always change
if we are willing to change)

Quality - Do I like this ?
- Identity - know who you are at all time
NLP is about having change without having to remember to be different
(it is like waking up and feel and think like a millionaire)
In a family of thieves, a child who doesn't steal feels guilty.

Survival brain
Our brain is driven by survival instinct
eg. When the group of antelope see a lion, they first freeze then only run

BEHAVIOUR

Rapport
- For men to get into rapport with women - men need to know that women need to feel safe with men. So always smile.
- People like those who are similar to them
So, mirror their action (when they cross their leg, you follow, when they drink, you start
drinking)
Don't imitate them, the intention is not to belittle them.

Gesture
When they do small hand gesture, follow (don't do the opposite)

Five Logical Levels of Change

1. System - Family system, culture
2. Identity - I am (powerful belief)
3. Belief - What you think is good
4. Capability - new skills, language
5. Behaviors - Go for good diet
6. Environment - Parent

NLP Eye accessing cues

Eye accessing cues

This page contains information drawn from NLP. NLP was created and developed by two highly innovative Americans, Dr. Richard Bandler & Dr. John Grinder (shown on the right) at the University of California in the early 70's.

We experience the world outside our bodies through our senses (VAKOG):

vision,
sound (auditory),
touch (kinesthetic),
smell (olfactory) and
taste (gustatory).

We also have the capacity to recreate 'models' of our sensory information, that is, we can think in pictures and words and mentally recreate our experience of, or get a sense of an imagined, physical sensation. In addition to this, we feel emotions.

Take a moment to consider the following questions

What was the colour of a favourite toy, or item of clothing, from your childhood.

Remembering a distinctive sound from your past, perhaps a whistle or a school bell. How clear is it?

What do you think of first when you remember a particularly happy event or emotion that you have experienced?

How does feel to relax in a warm bath or shower?

What would your name look like in coloured neon lights above your front door?

How would your telephone sound if it were ringing underwater?

Eye movements

Each of the questions above causes you to access a memory or to mentally construct an experience. As you relax and run through the questions again. What do you notice, if anything, about the movement of your eyes?

Ask a friend the same questions, making sure that you are looking at his/her eyes as you are asking. What do you notice specifically about your friend's eye movements?

The effect that you might be noticing is referred to in neurological literature as 'lateral eye-movement'. NLP uses the phenomenon to help recognise patterns of thinking and primary processing systems (whether people use vision, sound or kinesthetic to trigger their thinking - Rep systems).

This information can be useful in gaining rapport and achieving more effective communication The diagram overleaf shows the usual meanings attached to lateral eye movements.

There are some myths about eye-accessing cues. For example, you cannot tell whether someone is lying or what they are thinking about by watching their eyes, however, you can tell which 'sensory systems' they are accessing. In other words they are a guide to the thought process but not the content of a person's thoughts. It's also worth bearing in mind that there will be some exceptions to the patterns shown below. Bandler and Grinder said:

You will find people who are organized in odd ways. But even somebody who is organized in a totally different way will be systematic; their eye movements will be systematic for them. (Frogs into Princes, 1978/1979. page 27)

What you can notice

These are the usual meanings of lateral eye movement - the illustrations assume that you are facing the other person (so that their left is your right).

Up and to the left usually means that a person is remembering something visually - get the picture?
Eye accessing up left

Up and to the right usually means that a person is imagining (constructing) something visually. Can you just imagine that!
Eye accessing up right

Left side (horizontal) usually means a remembered sound - does that ring a bell?
Eye accessing left

Right side (horizontal) usually means an imagined (constructed) sound (I imagine that message should start become loud and clear to you now).
Eye accessing right

Down right (which is down right obvious!) usually means that a person is accessing a bodily feeling or emotion - are you getting to grips with this idea now?

Down left usually means that a person is accessing internal dialogue. This is often a repeated phrase such as "I should know better!" , "Yes! Done it again", "Told you so", etc., that comes up time-and-time again in; typically at times of stress or elation.

As mentioned above, although the patterns above are those most commonly found, there are exceptions. Some people have the patterns reversed (typical in, but not exclusive to, many left-handed people), others have a 'mixture'. There are also some cultures where this pattern is not the norm. Bearing in mind the NLP presupposition that 'Everyone lives in their own unique model of the world', you might encounter different patterns.

Learning to read eye-accessing cues will not make you a mind reader but will give you a clue to the way the other person is thinking. A skilled NLP practitioner will notice the sequencing of eye patterns. For example, before answering a question someone might always follow the pattern 'up left, across right, down right'. This suggests that they are remembering a picture, putting together some sound or words, and checking that the idea feels OK. By communicating ideas in the same sequence you will probably gain strong rapport with this person.

Representational systems

As human beings we experience the world through our physical senses: Vision, Hearing, Touch, Taste and Smell. In NLP the senses are split into three groups and referred to as Representational Systems (rep systems); this term relates to the fact the brain uses the senses to build our internal representation, or model of the world around us.

The rep-system groups are:

Visual - the things we see

Auditory - the things we hear

Kinaesthetic - the things we feel (touch/emotion), taste or smell

You can start finding out about the way that you are using your senses by taking a trip down memory lane...

Simply remember something pleasant; perhaps you are on holiday, taking a trip to the countryside or enjoying a romantic evening. What's the your first though or sensation in the instant that the memory comes to mind? Whatever your first thought is, it will fit in to one of the VAK categories (above).

For example, when remembering a beach holiday, some people's first recollection will be seeing the blue sky and bright sunlight (V - visual); others might remember hearing the sound of the sea or noise of children playing (A - auditory); some will remember the feel of the warm sunshine, the smell of hot-dogs or the taste of ice-cream (K - kinaesthetic).

Whatever your first thought is, it will offer a clue to your preferred (or leading) rep system.

By exploring your memory further, you will discover that your inner experiences are made up of Images, sounds and feelings. To prove this to yourself simply take your pleasant memory and try the following experiment.

Bring the memory back to mind now, in as much detail as you can, and then:

Take away any pictures that are associated with it so that all you are left with are sounds and feelings (as if the light has been switched off).
Next, turn the sound down until your memory is silent.
Finally, let the feelings melt away.

After steps above, you should be left with a blank memory! If there is anything left it will identifiable as a sight, sound or feeling that you have not 'switched off'.

It's perhaps now becoming obvious that we construct our internal 'model of the world' using our senses; what might not be so obvious is that each individual uses the senses differently, and so has a different internal model.

Generally, 'visual' people prefer thought pictures, 'auditory' people tend to listen to inner voices and those with a 'kinaesthetic' model mainly construct their inner world with touch and feelings.

NLP

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) was created and developed by two highly innovative Americans, Dr. Richard Bandler & Dr. John Grinder (shown on the right) at the University of California in the early 70's.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful and rapidly evolving study of human potential, most specifically via the areas of

language,
thought,
belief and
behavior.

NLP comes out of modeling highly successful behaviors and operates off our thinking patterns, how we make pictures, recall sounds, move our bodies and feel things (5 senses).

The word neuro refers to our brains and how it related to our five senses.

Linguistic comes from how we structure our language. As words are a model for our experiences, they can tell us how we have been thinking as well as change our experiences - as we change how we language.

Programming refers to the unconscious patterns, that we can then identify, articulate and shift into becoming more effective.

The fast, simple tools of NLP tap into our ability to change our beliefs, our thinking, our behaviors and therefore our experiences instantly. It’s a technology that is astounding in it’s ability to greatly enhance the positive in our lives.

The Power of you Mind

How fast the mind can shift from our physical and emotional responses.

http://actorslifecoaching.com/NLP.htm

How to create audition confidence with NLP

Present feeling : jittery before audition, have butterfly in the stomach feeling

Q : Is the picture of the hall narrow or all around you ? Answer : Narrow

Q : Is the color colorful or more black & white ? Answer : Black & white

Q : Is it bright or dark ? Answer : Dark

Q : Is it fuzzy or sharp ? Answer : Fuzzy

Q : Sound of the room Loud or soft ? Answer : Loud

Q : Crisp or dull sound ? Answer : Crisp

Q : What is your body experiencing ? Answer : Shaking

Q : Where is the shaking ? Answer : in my leg & chest

Q : What else are you feeling ? Tight, not open & free

Q : Alright Shake it off, get loose, take a deep breath

To shift to :

Q : What would you rather feel ? Open & confident, can take on anything, try new thing, don't want to limit myself

EYE

When a person looks left - he is remembering things

When a person looks right - he is imagining things

Thursday, 6 December 2012

To watch free chinese movies

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SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 4, 2012

Friday, 23 November 2012

Tax free investment - MIM Enhanced Cash XIII Fund

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Sunday, 18 November 2012

How to apply for a tax agent license ?

http://www.mia.org.my/new/faqs.asp

Q19. How do I apply for a tax agent licence?

There are certain qualifications recognised by the Ministry of Finance in order to apply for a tax agent licence under section 153 of the Income Tax Act, 1967 with relevant years of tax experience.

The tax agent licence application (Borang EC) and renewal form (Borang EC1) may be obtained from
a) the Institute (MIA) or
b) the Ministry of Finance or
c) downloaded from the MIA or
d) Treasury website.

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Wednesday, 7 November 2012

Who is Xie Wan Ying ?

http://www.bingxin.org/databank/sp/jjen.htm
She is a Chinese writer in Fuzhou.

1923 - graduated from Yanjing University
1923-5 -went to the US to further her study in literature at Wellesley College & finished her
Master’s Degree.
1926 -1936 teacher of Chinese Literature at Yanjing University,
1929 - married
1947 - went to Japan and taught a course at Tokyo University
1960s - visit Europe, Asia, and Africa as member of Chinese Writers Association

A Short Biography of Xie Bingxin

Bingxin, a distinguished contemporary writer, poet, translator, and social activist, was born Xie Wanying on Oct.5, 1900, in Fuzhou, Fujian Province, to the family of a patriotic naval officer. During the May Fourth Movement, a patriotic student movement against foreign aggression and for new culture, she was a student at Yanjing University, was elected secretary of the Students’ Union, and took an active part in the publicity work for the Beijing Federation of Women Students. Greatly inspired by the movement, she began contributing to the newspaper Chenbao (Morning Paper). After she graduated from Yanjing University in 1923 with a Bachelor’s Degree, Phi-Beta-Kappa, she went to the United States to further her study in literature at Wellesley College and finished her postgraduate study with a Master’s Degree. Her M.A. Thesis was An English Translation and Edition of the Poems of Lady Li I-an (1926), a distinguished woman poet of the Sung Dynasty. In 1926, Bingxin returned to China to teach Chinese Literature at Yanjing University, a post she held until 1936. In 1929, she married Wu Wenzao, one of the founders of anthropology in China and widely respected in that field.

Bingxin had never stopped writing, contributing all her life to various papers and journals. She wrote a lot about her life and experience in the United States, from her journey there to the end of her stay. Those essays were later collected and published under the title of Letters to Young Readers, which has won her great popularity. As well as being educated in America, in 1947,Bingxin went with her husband to Japan where she taught a course on the New Chinese Literature at Tokyo University. She returned to China in 1951. In 1960,as a member of the Chinese Writers Association, she paid visits to various countries in Europe, Asia, and Africa to promote international cultural exchanges.

Bingxin’s literary involvement covers a wide spectrum. Her achievements in writing for children are the most significant and her influence has been widespread. Letter to Young Readers in the 192Os,More Letters to Young Readers in the 1950s and Still More Letters in the 1970s have stimulated and educated generation after generation of young 20th century readers.

Her most salient literary achievements are in prose, which constitutes the bulk of her writing, A Smile in the 1920s, A Little Orange Lantern in the 1950s, Ode to Cherry Blossoms in the 1960s are modern prose classics. In the spirit of" Life Begins at 80", she had continued her writing into her later years. In the 1980s,she completed a series of prose writings, for example, About Men. Since 1985 she had been writing reminiscences, short stories, prose, essays, which have stimulated great interest and response on the part of her many readers.

Bingxin was one of Chinese poets in the early time of the 20th century. Two collections of her poems A Maze of Stars and Spring Water, published in the 1920s,were so unique that the style was named 'Bingxin Style' after her. She blazed a trail in modern poetry and ushered in a period of 'popular short poems'.

In fiction, her 1920s short stories describing social problems, Two Families and A Frustrated Man, found an echo in the hearts of many readers. In 1981,her short story An Empty Nest won the National Best Short Story Award.

As a translator, Bingxin had translated Tagore's collected poems Gitanjali (Song Offerings) and The Gardener. She was the first to translate the Lebanese Poet Kahil Gibran' s collected poems The Prophet and Sand and Foam into Chinese in the early 30s and 60s respectively. In recognition of her contribution to cultural exchange and friendship between China and Lebanon, the President of Lebanon conferred a National Decoration on her in 1995.

On the 20th century literary scene, Bingxin had emerged as a unique Chinese woman writer in terms both of her achievements and of the fact that her creative writing had spanned the century from the 1920s to the 1990s. Her works teem with wisdom, purity, sincerity, noble ideals, love for the young and for the nation. Her writings have faithfully recorded the experiences and lessons of the 20th century. She was a woman of integrity and principle, keeping her dignity and upholding her lofty ideals. She had taken things philosophically and viewed life optimistically, looking always on the bright side of things. As the saving has it: ‘the writing reflects the writer’Bingxin' s writing, like a maze of stars in the sky or a pond of spring water when winter comes to an end, relieves thirst, brings comfort, and will exert a lasting influence on readers, generation after generation.